Suicide is a subject I never thought I'd find myself writing about. But after seeing its effects in the lives of those around me, hearing on the news about celebrities taking their own lives, and just recently watching the show "13 Reasons Why," it's a topic that's been on my mind. The question that keeps coming to my mind is: How can I help?
When I say that I was a non-runner, I'm not kidding. There was a time that I would have done almost anything to get out of running or exercise in general. I never thought I'd be able to say that I ran 13 miles or honestly, even one mile. But I did it. All I had to do was decide.
We smile. Through the chaos. The tantrums. The arguments. The messes. We smile. Even when there’s knotty hair, missing shoes, dirty diapers, and soaking wet bathrooms. We smile. We cry sometimes, but we also smile.
Here I am, trying on my bathing suit to go to Florida soon. I'm months away from turning 30 and still struggling with the same. darn. thing. Wishing I didn't have these "love handles," or that my belly was flatter, or my thighs were thinner, or my arms didn't jiggle so much. But now, I'm a mom of 3 girls. Three precious faces looking to me, observing and learning through my example how to feel about themselves. And no matter how many times I assure them that they are beautiful and perfect just as they are, that message will be lost if they see me believing any differently about myself.
My husband and I bought our first home in a cute little river town called Marietta. Occasionally, on a Saturday morning, I would take advantage of living near the water and head down to the river. I loved to sit silently and watch the water. It was a wonderful opportunity for me to unwind and to simply be.
Yesterday, I finished reading Mel Robbins' book, "The 5 Second Rule."It has nothing to do with dropped food.It has everything to do with improving your life. The premise is this: Any time your gut tries to move in the right direction, your brain talks you out of it after 5 seconds. If you don't take action within those first 5 seconds, you miss your window of opportunity.
I was having one of those days as a mom. I was frustrated. Nothing seemed to be going right. My fuse was getting shorter. I was exhausted. The kids wouldn't listen. They kept asking me for things. Asking over and over and over again. Even after I had said no a million times...
Do you ever sit around and think about how much your life has changed since you became a mom? I do. I look at my girls and I think about how they'll see life someday-- how they may not remember everything I say, but they will remember the lessons that I teach them with my own life. I want them to know that they can do anything, not just because I tell them so but because I show them so. I want to be an example of continual personal growth, loving others, and having a servant's heart. An example of someone who went for her dreams, instead of simply talking…
As a married mom of three, a part-time jewelry consultant, and blogger, I have been forced to become better at time management. And I am always trying to improve my skills in this area. I want to maximize my time with my family, but I don't want to give up the big dreams that I have for us. I often get asked, "How do you do it all?!" The answer is that I prioritize. I am learning to make a distinction between the urgent and the important.
This week I have been confronted with an important lesson just when I needed it. So many days I am "go go going." I try to fit in every little task into my day. As soon as my peaceful morning routine is over, I start running around. I often multi-task in an effort to save time and get more done. The message that I have received this week is "Slow down. Life is not an emergency. You must take time to refill your tank and or will run out of gas on the highway."